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Finding Light in the Hardest Seasons: My Journey with Triggers and Glimmers

November 25, 2025

Dr. Portia Lockett shares her personal journey of navigating the holiday season after her son was murdered in December 2020, describing how formerly joyful traditions have become painful triggers. She explains that while grief remains present through empty chairs and bittersweet memories, she has learned to find "glimmers" of hope in small moments like her granddaughter's laughter, prayer, and the work of the Azal Benne Lockett Foundation helping others with burial expenses. Rather than choosing between joy and pain, she now gives herself permission to feel both emotions simultaneously during the holidays.

Who is affected

  • Dr. Portia Lockett (author who lost her son to murder)
  • Her son, Azal Benne Lockett (murder victim, December 2020)
  • Her granddaughter (the son's daughter)
  • Her other sons (the victim's brothers)
  • People experiencing grief during the holidays (general audience)
  • Families served by the Azal Benne Lockett Foundation (receiving financial resources for burial/funeral services)

What action is being taken

  • Dr. Lockett is giving herself permission to feel both joy and pain
  • She is embracing traditions that nourish her and setting aside ones that don't serve her healing
  • She is intentionally looking for glimmers
  • The Azal Benne Lockett Foundation is helping others heal by providing financial resources for burial/funeral services

Why it matters

  • This article matters because it acknowledges the often-overlooked reality that the holiday season can be deeply painful for those experiencing grief, particularly those who have lost loved ones to tragedy. By sharing her personal experience and providing practical coping strategies, Dr. Lockett validates the complex emotions many people silently navigate during a time when societal pressure emphasizes joy and celebration. The piece offers permission for grieving individuals to honor their authentic feelings rather than conforming to expectations, while also demonstrating that hope and healing can coexist with ongoing grief.

What's next

  • Readers needing additional support can contact Dr. Lockett through her provided contact information (websites, social media platforms, LinkedIn)
  • Individuals can implement the seven suggested tips for navigating holidays through grief

Read full article from source: Michigan Chronicle